Love Equals Life
You can have all the money in the world, the best business, a luxurious mansion on a hill, drive the newest sports-car on the market, and still not have a successful life of achievement if you do not have loving relationships. Healthy relationships are an absolute requirement for full internal and external success. If one does not have loved ones, then he/she is not a complete success. It is simply a requirement of the human condition. Consider the world’s most successful individuals, entrepreneurs, CEO’s, major marketing experts, etc. The one thing that the majority of these individuals have in common is that they are happily married with children that they love. This is not a coincidence. These individuals are successful only because they know that success cannot be achieved only by monetary means. Their true success was found in their hearts and the hearts of others.
Why Love?
“The purpose of life is to develop loving relationships. When we look back over our lives, we find that the most enjoyable times were shared with those we love. Love grows only sharing. The more you give away, the more you get back If we can learn to love ourselves and others, we can then go on to the full realization of our human destiny.” -Brian Tracy, The Psychology of Achievement
There are certain aspects of a life that signifies if it was a successful one. There is the financial end, the healthy aspect, the dreams that were achieved, and a few more. Many of these aspects can be considered as optional. Loving and successful relationships, however, are always a necessity. If a person is successful throughout his or her life and dies alone and lonely, then no one sees them as one who has lived a good and successful life. You need at least, the very minimum, of one special friend and one loving mate to be completely successful, even in your own eyes.
That Special Someone
In no way are we telling you to go out, find someone that you might like today, and run off and get married. There is a difference between a relationship and a loving relationship. If we have an archenemy, then that is a relationship. Granted, it is not a healthy one, but it is a relationship nonetheless.
You do not have to actively look for that special someone. It is not necessary to actually go hunting for them. To be honest, this often ends in tragedy. The trick is not to hunt for this person, but merely to be open to them when they do come. Don’t search, but keep your eyes open. At some point, you will stumble upon the right person, and it’s very important that you know them when they show themselves.
How Will I Know?
Recognizing the right person is a difficult task, at best. All too often we second guess ourselves. When the right person comes along, we wonder if we are making a bad choice. Usually we do this because we look at only the negative aspects of a person, be it physical, emotional, or mental. There are a few aspects one can look at to see if you are compatible and have a good chance at building a healthy relationship.
First, look at the individual’s goals. If your goals are to start your own business in your hometown and build it up over the years and their goals are to move to a foreign country, then obviously there will be issues. For this to even come close to working someone would have to give up on his or her dreams. If you have to surrender your dreams and life goals for someone, then there is a high probability that this is not the love of your life. Make certain that your goals and dreams are compatible.
Then, instead of focusing on the negative aspects of the possible significant other, look within yourself. Do you want to give everything to make this person smile? Does a moment alone with this person walking on the beach mean more to you than a full year of making money? When you give to this person, do you expect something in return or is it simple enough to have them near? Then, once you have answered all these questions, ask yourself if you honestly believe that the other person will have the exact same answers if they asked themselves the same questions. If the answer is yes, you likely have a winner.
Other Relationships
Relationships are important on a wider scale than merely that of the spouse. It is important to make good friends who would be there for you at a moments notice in your times of need. The best way to do this is to offer that same thing to others. When someone is suffering, be there. Ask nothing in return. Drop everything to be a friend.
The same holds true for children. If you have children, do not simply assume that fathering them was enough. Spend quality time with them. Take one day per week out and focus completely on them. Sacrifice time to go to their games, recitals, or any other activity that they are involved in. Time is your key here. To your children, though they likely will not realize it until they mature, your time is the most valuable asset, your greatest gift.
To reach a point in our lives where we consider ourselves successful achievers, we must always include the aspect of successful relationships. Along the way it might seem as if such things were too time-consuming and can wait until later on, after we have achieved financial success, but in the long run, we will find that we wasted years of our lives seeking our goals alone. True success can be multiplied by two, three, and so on. Do not seek achievement on the road of life alone.
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